You just have to be patient and loving and let God do His work in His time. So many marriages have broken because the partners are in such haste that they don't take time to make such vital checks and rush into things. Don't add yourself to the list of marriage casualties because you couldn't take time or were too desperate for marriage to find out about or get to know the person with whom you plan to spend the rest of your life.
Remember, marriage is not just for today or tomorrow but for life, and for the primary purpose of building a family.
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“Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.” -Matthew 5:43-45